A to Z: Bondage

I have agreed to do the blogging A to Z challenge, and will publish a under-300 word post from my sex life every day, except Sunday.

Like many people, I enjoy being restrained: I love the feeling of being tied up so I have limited movement by rope or kits.

I cannot deny that it is a powerful aphrodisiac to cede control to the person you love, and allow them to enforce their dominance over you. I cannot do anything to stop my wife (except use my safeword) but I do not want to.

When either of us are in bondage, it encourages my wife and I to discover new angles to our sexuality. When she is restrained, our play is gentle and orgasmic: I will take her to repeated climaxes until she is drained. When I am restrained, our play is sadomasochist and passionate.

But bondage always demands great communication and awareness, coaxing us towards greater intimacy and understanding.

There is a thrill of trust but also a relief to let go: after stressful days, the joy of not having to think is immense. There is, of course, the option to work punishment sessions into sex: I do receive regular spankings and paddlings, and being bound ensures I cannot wiggle, I cannot free myself, and I have no option but to submit to the full monty. I think I would anyway, but drives up the psychological element to the play, by being forced to.

As for the reasons in my psyche behind my enjoyment behind it: I do not know. I like the idea of there being a strong correlation between sexual deviancy and BDSM, and high intelligence, but this is probably bunkum.

All I would say, is that there few sexual activities we do, where the enjoyment and satisfaction gained, is not increased by being utterly helpless.

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