A-to-Z: K-Y Jelly and personal lubricants

I have agreed to do the blogging A to Z challenge, and will publish a under-300 word post from my sex life every day, except Sunday.

It’s not just K-Y Jelly but personal lubricants: in fact, my wife and I use GiveLube far more than K-Y, but K-Y was the first lubricant we used, and we still have a tube in a drawer upstairs. I know it’s a bit hypocritical: K-Y contains ingredients that I endeavour to avoid. Ingredients like parabens, glycerine, and glycols.

Last year, I castigated Durex after an interesting exchange for refusing to list the ingredients in their popular Durex Play lubricant. To me, how do I know that the personal lubricants that I am putting on sensitive skin, and consuming during oral sex, are safe if they will not list the ingredients?

After all, parabens are known to mimic oestrogen and both glycerine and sodium benzoate can irritate the skin. Other lubricants have been found to include ingredients that assist with HIV transmission: not great things to be putting “down there.” But the world is changing: companies like GiveLube, who publish their free-from-nasties formulas, have been recognised at ETO Awards and are gaining in popularity. I think that’s a good thing.

We have a few tubes of lube: I prefer the slide and longevity of silicone lubricant, but this can stain and is fairly messy, so we use a lot more water-based lube. I find that water-based lubricants dry out and require additional application, and some formulas irritate my wife.

And I know there is a perception that lubes are only needed if the woman is “dry” but this isn’t true. For any anal play copious amounts of lubrication are essential, as is play with dildos. Handjobs feel delightful with a well-oiled, greased palm and e-stim play on dry skin is uncomfortable, or even painful. And anyway, sex with liberal lubrication feels completely different; my skin feels more alive and the connection deeper.

So personal lubrication, whether it be K-Y Jelly or not, is a key, and vital, part of our sex life. But most definitely not, WD-40! 😉

Featured image from here and used under a Creative Commons license.

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  1. Let me introduce you to the finest oil for the job, virgin cold pressed coconut oil does the job better than anything I’ve tried, tasty and edible, no nasty chemicals at all….also super healthy for diet and beauty. I make my own but I’d imagine its much cheaper too. 😉
    Loving the A to Z Challenge Maggie@expatbrazil.
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